The Public Speaking Blues

The Public Speaking Blues

After the initial euphoria of your brilliant public speaking wears off, does your mood sink lower than a snake’s belly? Do you shrink from stride to slink?

The Perfection Trap

The Perfection Trap: how to find beauty in our flaws

How To Find Beauty In Your Flaws I was watching day time TV. The world champions of ice skating whizzed around the rink. The magical whirls, the fantastical costumes and above all, the search for the perfect “10”. Like most competitive sports, only First Place is venerated. Crushing disappointment for everyone else. I saw it […]

Should I Sit or Stand When I Speak?

Should I Sit or Stand When I Speak?

Use Body Language To Talk In Your Favour “Should I sit or stand when I speak?” As a speaking coach, I am often asked this question. The decision to sit or stand sends a body language message about your conscious and unconscious intentions toward your listeners. Be clear about whether you need to establish authority, […]

Don’t Give A Speech; Be The Speech

Be The Speech

Invite Your Inner Speaker To Dance My friend Amanda a dancer, gave an impromptu speech at a meeting. She announced it was her final night. While she spoke, Amanda kept her body moving in a silent dance. She spoke of her gratitude and shared what she’d learned while packing up her bag for the last […]

But What If I Cry When It’s My Turn to Speak?

The Vulnerability Of Public Speaking Uh, oh… your chest feels like it may explode, your throat is constricted and your face is hot. Strong emotions are rising and about to overwhelm your carefully constructed boundaries. Oh no, not now! Now you need to look good. You need to convey strength, confidence and above all, professionalism. […]

Stop Freezing Like A Rabbit When You Speak

So many clients ask me what to do when they “freeze and go blank” when speaking or introducing themselves to a group. These are symptoms of performance anxiety. It mostly occurs in more “formal situations” where we believe there is a high likelihood of judgement  – “I might fail” or “I might be disliked or […]